I feel like online presents a layer of distance between people who would be friends if they had a 2 minute conversation in person.

Literally like, I wish I could grab people by the shoulders and explain that that 1) different things are going to bring each person out of their pain because it’s how that method interacts with our specific pain that matters, there is no blanket cure and 2) a major thing that gets you out of your misery is NOT TRYING TO GET RID OF IT BEFORE YOUVE PROCESSED IT!!! if you haven’t spent enough time allowing yourself to feel it and think about it and you’re not ready for getting out into the world to try and focus on something else, none of that’s going to help you. YOU NEED TO FEEL YOUR PAIN ! If you don’t think about it, it never gets better.

If someone complains that you “””wallow in your misery””” then that’s more likely to mean you need to confront your feelings head-on, not ignore them by going outside and exercising. And then kick that person in the shins.

another reason to ignore anyone claiming yoga cures depression is, some people have depression and undiagnosed hypermobility at the same time! yoga and undiagnosed hypermobility are a bad bad combination! for reasons that would remain true even if yoga were a 100% guaranteed depression cure!

This post isnt about things that Hurt, this is about things that DO help an individual but its hard for them to do those things!
Still a very good point, though, but not the one I was making

yeah, the truly irritating part is that yoga did help my mental state, but finding someone who knows how to make sure I don't fuck my joints doing it is difficult enough when I know that's something to look for, and my joints are too fucked at this point to try again

I think as well, when people are like “but it helped me!”, they’re having a bit of trouble with the chicken and the egg

“I felt much better once I tidied my room! I wish I’d done it sooner!”

Okay, but, like, was tidying your room the only factor, or did you start to feel better for other, less obvious reasons, and then were able to clean your room because you felt better, and then that kept you going in an upwards spiral?

Same for exercise and going outside and not relying on tech as much. Did you have a great morning because you didn’t grab your phone and open TikTok when you first woke up, or did you choose not to grab your phone and scroll through TikTok because you were already having a good morning? Do you feel energised because you did exercise, or did you get yourself to do exercise because you were energised?

Like, you should have “clean my room, go for a walk, etc” at the top of your to-do list so that when you start to feel better, you can push it into an upwards spiral, but there are definitely times when that spiral just isn’t going to happen, no matter how hard you push.

One time when I was younger I was refusing to take headache medicine and my mom said “the person who invented that medicine is probably so sad you won’t let them help you” and now every time I find myself denying medicine I just imagine the saddest scientist making those big wet eyes like “why won’t you let me help” and whoop then I take the medicine

I love that image. It’ll be living rent-free in my head now.

There is one legitimate reason to think carefully before taking headache medicine, and it doesn’t apply to most people.

If you take it every day, for several days straight, especially multiple times a day, you can get a rebound headache (link goes to the Mayo Clinic website). 

However, that is only true for people who have a history of migraines or other severe headaches.

And then you’re not avoiding taking your meds because you think it’s nobler to suffer, you’re avoiding taking meds so that you suffer less.

Yeah, any medication, including over the counter medication, probably has side effects if you take it often over a long period of time, and you should be aware of what those side effects are

But, like, for a one-off headache? Or when an old injury is flaring up? Or when your hayfever meds don’t mix with your other meds, but half of your face is painfully swollen? Take the paracetamol.